All tangled up: Let’s get rid of “no strings attached” sex

All tangled up: Let’s get rid of “no strings attached” sex

Recently, much to my puzzled delight, i discovered myself perched on a washer being energetically fingered with a male that is human.

Well! This is a fascinating (and enthusiastically consented-to) situation, perhaps perhaps perhaps not minimum of most because

  1. I will be a(okay that is lesbian ok, I’m bisexual, but as my hilarious and breathtaking freshman roomie states, “Reina. Guys will perhaps not attempt to have intercourse they look over you calling your self a lesbian in publications. with you if” To which we state: The creepy people will!), and
  2. I happened to be on a automatic washer.

A lot more interesting: this specific individual male had read a bit of mine on intimate ethics, hookup culture, and vulnerability, and then he had some concerns.

Specifically: Why on the planet would you speak with a chick you fucked the after morning? Does not this just make shit more awkward for all of us?

In my opinion that my pussy is really a diplomat, distributing feminism anywhere she goes. Properly, and hands being duly obtained from my vagina, we assumed our roles all over dryer/campfire. Sharing time!

Towards the smart-asses noting that i favor dealing with intercourse to, you understand, making love: sex is discursive, bitches.

The topic of the hour: No strings connected intercourse.

We reside in a tradition that dichotomizes closeness. Oftentimes, we comprehend intercourse as either a love-you-forever, mind-body-and-soul, marry-me expertise in which two people are meant to care profoundly for starters another and treat one another properly, or even a throw-away, wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am, commodified, amoral journey round the roller rink. Those sequins!

A politics of purity — a straight, white, cisgender politics of respectability — usually characterizes the kind that is former of. Читать далее «All tangled up: Let’s get rid of “no strings attached” sex»